So I was thinking the other day “what was the most influential thing that my mother has ever taught me?” Now sure we all received the lessons from our mother about being polite, always saying please and thank you, think before you speak, and the hundreds if not thousands of other cliche type lessons that our mothers have told us over the years. I want to touch on that one thing that I have learned from my mother that resonates with me to this day. So as I sat and gave it a little thought the one thing that came to mind is more so how my mom has carried herself than something she has told me.
My mother has alway had a “no matter what others do; you do what you know you are supposed to” mentality. Now let me explain, in our society we are generally taught along the way by what we observe or what others tell you that if someone does something wrong to you then it is your right and almost your duty to retaliate. I think that in my years on this earth my mother has definitely lived the opposite of that. If someone wrongs you what difference does that make with what YOU do? If you know what the right thing to do is I think that you are best served in the long run to act on that right thought. I think that there are so many friendships and relationships that have become fractured or have even ended based on people thinking that it is ok to wrong someone that has wronged you. As Gandhi once said “An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.”
So let’s observe the masses and do the opposite. If you feel as though a person has wronged you instead of trying to get them back make an attempt to let them know that you did not appreciate what they did and you may even find out that they did not mean to wrong you and it was just a case of mis-communication.
